Sometimes after a breakup we struggle to enjoy our free time. During the week, we have the distraction of work, but as Friday looms we can find things challenging. On weekends we have more time to think, and may find ourselves faced with a gap that used to be filled by spending time with our ex.
Initially it may feel like a wrench, but there are things you can do to enjoy your downtime by looking through a fresh lens and indulging in the things that make you feel good. Here are some top tips for fulfilling and fun solo weekends.
Plan in advance.
Prepare your weekend beforehand. That may include locking in a catch-up with friends, booking a class, or having a rough schedule in your mind. By organising your solo weekend beforehand, you’re less likely to be blindsided by loneliness or overthinking, and you can make the most of your time.
Choose the right company.
If you’re feeling a bit fragile or in need of a boost, think about the people who are going to support you in the right way. You may need a bloody good laugh, a deep and meaningful, or some practical help. So try to catch up with those who reflect your needs at the moment.
What can you do now that you couldn’t in your relationship?
You know the saying “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”… well, this is your opportunity. If there were things you wanted to try and places you wanted to visit but you resisted because they weren’t appealing to your ex, now is the perfect time to give them a go.
Relax, re-invigorate and restore
Breakups can be emotionally draining and take their toll on your mood and energy levels. If you’re feeling deflated, tired or in a general funk, take time out to refill your cup and rebuild your energy levels.
If you’re looking for some ideas, either alone or with others, here are some suggestions for a fabulous solo weekend.
1. Brunch with the girls – there is nothing better than catching up with girlfriends for distraction, laughter and support.
2. Get outta town – a day trip or weekend away is a brilliant option to gain some fresh perspective and space whilst enjoying beautiful scenery.
3. Indulge – spoil yourself with some shopping, a long bath or a pedicure. Anything that makes you feel happy and special.
4. Get busy – plan a weekend of “doing”… it might be a mini-makeover at home, a craft project or a clear out. By the end of a productive weekend you’ll feel a sense of satisfaction and have something to show for it.
5. Sleep in – if your energy feels low or you just want to snuggle in bed, enjoy some downtime to rest and retreat.
6. Whip up a storm – get into the kitchen to make your favourite foods or try a new recipe. Fill your soul and your belly with goodness and stock up for the week ahead.
7. Enjoy a movie-fest or readathon – wind down, chill out, escape and enrich yourself.
Please remember, right now, the most important thing is self-care. Try not to worry about what everyone else is doing, and resist any pressure to do things you don’t want to do. If you feel like being a social butterfly, spread your wings and fly. But if you feel like vegetating on the couch by yourself, grab a tub of Ben and Jerry’s and enjoy. You are the captain of your own ship and you know yourself better than anyone. So however you choose to spend your solo weekends, do what feels right for you.
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